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“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”
 - Washington Irving
“When words are most empty, tears are most apt.”
 - Max Lucado
“No farewell words were spoken, there was no time to say goodbye. You were gone before we knew it, and only God knows why.”
 - author unknown
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths.”
 - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
“There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.”
 - Mahatma Gandhi
“May the best day of her past be the worst day of her future”
 - paraphrase of Margolyn Woods and Maureen MacLellan
“Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you”
 - Freddie Mercury
“Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true hearts will leave footprints in your heart”
 - paraphrase of Eleanor Roosevelt
“A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again.”
 - Maya Angelou
“That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet.”
 - Emily Dickinson
“Say not in grief ‘he is no more’ but in thankfulness that he was.”
 - Hebrew Proverb
“We do not remember days, we remember moments.”
 - Cesare Pavese
“It is not length of life, but depth of life.”
 - Ralph Waldo Emerson
“What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.”
 - Helen Keller
“Neither fire nor wind, birth nor death can erase our good deeds.”
 - Buddha
“The highest tribute to the dead is not grief but gratitude.”
 - Thornton Wilder
“The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one.”
 - Seneca
“I’ll remember you. When I’ve forgotten all the rest. You to me were true. You to me were the best.”
 - Bob Dylan
“Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.”
 - Anne Roiphe
“People may not remember exactly what she did, or what she said ... but they will remember how she made them feel”
 - paraphrase of Margolyn Woods and Maureen MacLellan
“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”
 - Theodore Geisel
“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”
 - Mitch Albom
“Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.”
 - Dorothy Ferguson
“Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.”
 - Rumi
“To live in hearts, we leave behind is not to die.”
 - Thomas Campbell
“Tell your friend that in his death, a part of you dies and goes with him. Wherever he goes, you also go. He will not be alone.”
 - Jiddu Krishnamurti
“There is no pain so great as the memory of joy in present grief.”
 - Aeschylus
“The remembrance of the good done those we have loved is the only consolation when we have lost them.”
 - Demoustier
“Death is not the opposite of life, but a part of it.”
 - Haruki Murakami
“Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come.”
 - Rabindranath Tagore
“Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them.”
 - George Eliot
“Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure, you are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure.”
 - author unknown
“It’s hard to forget someone who gave us so much to remember.”
 - author unknown
“When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure.”
 - author unknown
“Goodbyes are not forever. Goodbyes are not the end. They simply mean I’ll miss you, until we meet again.”
 - author unknown
“The song is ended but the melody remains.”
 - author unknown
“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”
 - A.A. Milne (Winnie the Pooh)

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Memoirs

Lyne Shamansky

Our Travels

When did we start traveling together? Joni would fly into Sacramento, and I would be at the bottom of the escalator waiting. Northern California and Oregon were at our bidding. She was my best friend and I haven’t planned an excursion without her and we did "excurse". We wandered from the foothills of the Sacramento Valley to cities big and small. We sat overlooking beaches and swam in lakes. We wandered through art museums and parks. We shopped together, quilted together, sat under Redwoods together and never stopped talking.

Toward the end of her teaching career, she taught fourth grade and, in a conversation, she mentioned wanting to visit Sutter’s Mill. So, when I picked her up from the airport instead of heading north, we headed east to Hwy 49 which is in the Gold Country of California until we found the mill. We shopped in Auburn and slept in Placerville. We wandered back on back roads through apple orchard and homesteads.

Another year we headed south to Fort Bragg and Mendocino. We ate lunch on a cliff overlooking the Pacific, and slept overlooking the ocean. I bought a magazine called The Cowboy. And Joni ordered Calamari, of course.

Our last trip was one of our favorites. We stayed in an old farmhouse at Point Reyes. We went to a wind-swept lighthouse and ate fried chicken in Inverness and ice cream at Point Reyes Station among the eucalyptus trees. Speaking of fried chicken, there was the year we went to Knox Berry Farm. She will remember more than I can about that trip. Oh, and Disneyland.

We drove far up the Oregon coast and bought hand thrown pottery at Charleston Harbor, always looking for hotels with a view of the ocean and Calamari. I broke my foot in Brookings and hobbled through the Trees of Mystery where she bought fudge.

We went on trip after trip after trip, but Joni was just as happy right here on my back patio, drinking her coffee and watching the blue jay. She was happy swimming in Lake Siskiyou and hanging out with Jeff.

I could have gone on forever, but Joni was always ready to go home before the week was out. She loved our trips, but loved and missed her home more. She talked endlessly about her boys. Home and family were without a doubt her comfort and her passion. She was never happier than on her front porch swing reading the newspaper.

She had a few quirks. She would not drive on freeways, so when we were in Whittier, she would take surface streets to the beach or to Pasadena to shop. She followed the rules to the letter. If there was a sign that said stay on the sidewalk, you could not get her to walk on the grass and she never jay walked. She was not terribly adventurous and ducked her head when I drove my Subaru off road. She would not kayak with me but let Jeff talk her into his inflatable at Castle Lake.

She had a great love for Mommy, Susie and Sam and talked about endless memories. She created the Carroll side of the family tree. She loved the Thompson weddings, one after the other.

My life has certainly changed without her. We talked for hours and hours and hours on the phone. Together we watched the U.S. House of Representatives committee investigations on the "January 6, 2021 U.S. Capitol Attack", she in Whittier and me pacing in Mt. Shasta. I can’t believe that I can’t just pick up the phone and call her. It does not seem that I will be traveling without her. I am not crying, because she said to go live my best life. Except, I can’t without her. I want to say shit, but she would not like me swearing.

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